Loving eyes practice
- How present am I? Ground as helpful:
- Feel the earth beneath you, the sky above you, the space around you and within you.
- Resource as helpful:
- When you feel grounded, present, and resourced, identify a recent triggering event, one that isn’t overwhelming. Get the:
- Image of the event
- Emotion as you picture it
- Urge/impulse
- Immerse briefly in the above image, emotion, sensation, thought/belief, urge/impulse… then float back to an earlier time in your life, the earlier the better, until you can identify a memory when you have felt similarly.
- From your present vantage point, see your younger self there:
- Where are they?
- How old are they?
- What are they doing?
- How/what are they feeling?
- What are they thinking?
- What are they needing?
- What do they long for?
- Notice how you feel toward your younger self. (Note: If you feel at all critical toward them, pause and check in with the critical part.)
- If you are feeling curious and open, then simply see them there with as much openness and curiosity as you can. Notice, sense, feel what you notice, sense, feel.
- See if there is anything they want to share with you about their experience, if there is anything they want to say to you or show you. If they do share any of their experience with you, see if you can reflect back to them and validate any of their experience that resonates with you. Let them know you see them, hear them.
- See if there is anything they want or need from you now. Options:
- When they feel sufficiently seen and heard, if you are open to contacting and being with them again in the future, let them know that.
- Let them know this is only the beginning of a new relationship with you. Close your meeting with a word or gesture.
- When things feel complete, come back to the present moment, grounding as helpful.
Option: Make the above a daily or weekly practice.
