Regarding any trigger or triggering situation, ask yourself:
Can I change the situation?
What is in my power to do so?
What are the obstacles in the way of changing it?
What are the potential antidotes per obstacle?
If I can’t change the situation, can I change how I relate to the situation? That is, can I reframe it, find the opportunity in it, or otherwise see it differently?
What are the obstacles in the way of relating to it differently, reframing it, finding the opportunity in it?
What are the potential antidotes per obstacle?
If I can’t change how I relate to it or reframe it, can I radically accept the situation?
What would it take to do so?
What are the obstacles in the way of accepting it?
What are the potential antidotes per obstacle?
If I can do none of the above, am I willing to keep resisting/suffering vis-à-vis the situation?
If not, repeat the sequence again.