NOTE 1: For some folks, just the Inner Advisor's unconditionally supportive spacious presence (without any words) is sufficient.
NOTE 2: Some folks notice they have an Inner Coach, which has a different kind of supportive energy than their Inner Advisor, but is nevertheless supportive. If this is the case for you, just make sure its energy feels supportive. If it is harsh in any way, it is likely a burdened part of you, which can be explored, processed and unburdened via parts work.
Healing words for feelings of defectiveness & shame
You are worthy of... {love, rest, joy, etc.}
You are worthy
You are loveable
You deserve... {a nap, a vacation, a freedom day, etc.}
You are a good person
It's okay to put yourself first sometimes
It's okay to have needs
You are fine as you are / There is nothing wrong with you
You are a success
You're good
You're good enough
You are enough
You are whole / You are healing
You are beautiful / You are just fine as you are
You are smart
You matter
You are fine just as you are
You deserve to live
You deserve to be happy
You are fine just as you are
You belong
Healing words for a sense of guilt & regret
You did the best you could
You learned from it / You can learn from this
You did your best
You did your best under the circumstances
You can hold yourself accountable and extend self-compassion at the same time
There was no way to know
You did fine
You're learning. It's okay to make mistakes
Healing words for a sense of safety & danger
You're safe
You're safe now
You survived
You can choose whom to trust now
It's okay to show your emotions
You can show your emotions
It's okay to be vulnerable
It's safe to be vulnerable
You can let it out
You can speak your truth
You can tolerate big emotions / You have the capacity to be with big emotions
It's over / It's in the past now
Healing words for a sense of self-agency & control
You are in control
You are powerful
You are capable / You have choices
You are strong
You can get what you want
You can succeed / You are a success
It's okay to make mistakes / You can be yourself
It's okay to disappoint
You can protect yourself
You can stand up for yourself
You can be trusted
You can trust your judgment
You can trust yourself
You can establish healthy boundaries
You can practice self-care
You can take care of yourself
You have permission/You are allowed to take care of yourself
Common Inner Advisor Statements
Of course you feel...
It's okay to feel...
You don't have to do anything
This too shall pass
It's gonna be alright
Nothing needs to happen
What wants to happen?
You don't have to be perfect
Just yourself is enough
You got this
You can do this
You have permission...
It's okay to take space
It's okay to take care of yourself first
It's okay to just be yourself
You can celebrate yourself
You will get through this
You will learn from this
You will grow from this
You will be wiser because of this
You've earned it
You worked so hard
You can just be
Of course
Just notice that
Just feel that
Just noticing...
Just feeling...
Go with that
You can do hard things
You can be yourself
Yourself is enough